Sunday 12 October 2014

The post I never thought I'd make

Yesterday was Mr Hare's 60th birthday. His secretaries gave him a beautiful cake and card. I had booked a table for a very fancy restaurant and we were going with my BIL and SIL plus some friends.
I had to cancel it because last Tuesday  my BIL and SIL'S daughter committed suicide. She was only 21 and leaves behind a partner and their 3 year old son. She had been struggling with mental illness and had obviously planned the whole thing.
The whole family is devastated and I can't put into words how dreadful it all is. My MIL who is 90 is beside herself because she was extremely close to Angharad and she is also worried about the effects on her son. She quite rightly thinks he with never recover from it. Like a lot of men, both my BIL and my husband have withdrawn into themselves and won't talk about it, whereas my MIL and SIL have found it helps to talk. Everyone is concerned about Dan ( Angharad's partner) and Carlton who is too young to understand. None of us have been able to sleep at night.
The funeral has been delayed because of the post mortem and later there will be an inquest. It's obvious that she was very badly let down by the mental health services but of course nothing will ever bring her back, so there is not much point dwelling on it.

9 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry to read your dreadful news - losing someone to suicide is so difficult but I hope that, in time, your family finds peace xxx

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  2. Oh Carol! Such terrible news… I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how you are all feeling. It's so heartbreaking that Carlton has lost his mummy. How do you explain that to him? Some 15 years ago now, my cousin in Ireland hung himself in his parents garden. I think he was 19. He left nothing to explain and it is so heartbreaking for everyone. Hopefully the inquest will be over quickly and that it will provide some answers. Thinking of you and sending lots of love xxxx

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  3. Dreadful news, I cannot imagine how all are feeling. Thoughts with you all.

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  4. How awful. So hard to bear. I do hope you all manage to pull together as a family and that you each manage to cope with the different grieving patterns of the others. Poor wee Carlton. I guess that in the long run it will help that he has a loving extended family. Will be thinking of you. Juliex

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  5. So sorry to read your news. It is very hard on those who are left behind but I pray that your family can pull together to overcome this terrible thing.

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  6. Such sad news. I cant even imagine what your family must be going through . Thinking of you all.

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  7. Oh Carol, I'm so sorry. What a terrible time for you all. My thoughts are with you, and if you would like to escape for a little while, then let me know and we could always meet for a cuppa in Monmouth if you fancy. Hugs, Sx

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  8. Big hugs to you all Carol, the torment she must have been in.

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  9. Carol, I have only just seen this post. I'm so sorry, such heartbreak for you and all your family. Any bereavement is difficult but suicide is very hard. Thinking of you all.

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