Sunday, 2 September 2012

Count your blessings or the whingeing post

Two weeks ago today I had a phone call from my brother that I had been expecting but had hoped would not come for a while. My mother has been living with my brother and his wife, at their invitation, for the last 14 months because she was unable to cope living alone and was having panic attacks. Even without the vascular dementia she is hard to cope with, but the memory loss has made it all far worse. My sister-in -law (who quite honestly deserves a sainthood) had finally snapped and says she can no longer have her in her house. So my mother was shipped off to me.She is the most annoying person ever. It is like dealing with a stroppy 3 year old and she says the most hurtful things then denies it all because she can't remember. Sometimes I'm not sure if all of it is her memory loss or just her personality which is entirely self centred. She is also one of those people who I think of as a happiness drain, so after a short while in her company you want to slit your own throat and hers. Then I feel guilty for feeling that way, because she is my mother after all.  I also feel bad, because entirely selfishly I can't bear the thought of looking after her for the next 10 years when I was looking forward to retirement and having some me time. My children are still not entirely independent either.

Over the bank holiday weekend we took my mother and mother-in -law for a short trip to Mumbles which was not a great success but I found this Burleigh vase in a charity shop. So every cloud does come with a silver lining.
I drove her to my sister's yesterday and we will take 2 week stints until we sort out a solution.

That's the whingeing bit out of the way.

I haven't made that much in the last 2 weeks but before my mother arrived I managed to finish this animal quilt top for a colleagues baby daughter

And this is the back

Now I have to quilt and bind it. I also have made one more star block.

This is a modified Nevada star. I missed out the bits in the 4 corners which make an additional pattern if you make repeated blocks.
I haven't blogged about the Festival of Quilts itself because the moment has gone but this quilt made me cry
And I realise I have to count my blessings.


  1. Carol, I love the star block! I'm also a big fan of the garden fence block quilt you've put together. I made one like it earlier this year. Best of luck figuring out a solution on dealing with your mother. I dread the day my father can no longer take care of himself for similar reasons. A happiness drain is an understatement for the types of stunts he pulls.

    1. Thanks Maria, I'm going to do Nevada star as one of your blocks as you said you like stars within stars.Thankfully, we seem to have found a solution to my mother

  2. oh Carol lets hope you can get your Mum sorted out soon though i dont know how !!!! i like the happiness drain that is the perfect way to describe mine sometimes (84 ys )she is not my Mum any more.............. not the one i grew up with !!!
    love your vase it made me smile :))) so cute ,and your quilt is gorgeous ,i just read your comment to Maria about a solution !!!